Dear Life Clinic readers
Our relationships can sometimes feel like our heads are in a vice being mercilessly squeezed until we feel we are going to explode.
Goldstein and Stahl suggest six qualities they consider vital in developing a more #Mindful approach to relationships which will lead to huge improvements:
This is a quality where you’re open to seeing the other
person and the relationship as new and fresh, and where you’re open to the other person’s perspective.
To kick this off look at your own feelings. Then try to imagine what the other person is feeling. Keep doing this.
This is when you imagine what the other is feeling and then add another dimension - a desire to ease the suffering of the other person. Imagine the person as your own child and how you would comfort them.
This is a quality where you truly wish others well- to be healthy, safe, free from harm and free from fear.
5) Sympathetic joy
This is when you really want to see the other person happy. I often glance across at my wife's face when we are watching a good film. I love to see her enjoyment. It makes me happy.
This is a steady mind - balanced, secure. Equanimity is wisdom, content with change and at ease with the interconnectedness of all life.
That's it! Have a wonderful weekend everyone.